I have made so many dietary changes in my life and I did it by myself.  Occasionally I would have a helpful friend listen to me and we would give a chance to hear each other out, but usually only about 20 minutes or so.  But what people don’t realize is that dietary changes bring out real gut emotions that you probably have no idea are there!  In fact, the mention of your own personal diet changes can make other people feel defensive about their choices even when that is not your intention at all.  I think we all know we need to eat well, but there seems to be some inconsistency with who and how it’s going to happen.  All of this dietary talk reminds me of a comment I made during my gymnastics lesson where I told my teacher “I was just hoping the back handspring would happen to me, I don’t like throwing my body and head where I can’t see.”  I think that sometimes can happen with our plans to eat healthy.  Well if my wife eats healthy and my parents are eating healthy, then by default, so will I and it’s just going to be like that.  That was my rational with my back handspring too.  Well, I have a good teacher and he can do a back handspring and so-and-so can do a back handspring so I am just going to be able to do one.  Nope!  Not the case!  I have to throw my body and head 100% where I can’t see to get results and hope that I that I am going to land on my feet.  That’s kinda how changing your diet feels.  (Of course I plan to practice my back handspring as should one their healthy eating)! 

I have never had any eating disorder whatsoever, but man, getting rid of this or that and no longer being able to eat samosas at Chartara drove me crazy sometimes!  For me, fast food is gabbing an avocado and cutting it open myself, so not as exciting as ordering some item and having ready for me 2 minutes from when I ordered it.  You don’t realize how much love and comfort are in certain meals or foods until you let them go.  Then you realize, you gotta find some love and comfort in other areas of your life, and well, that is just not convenient sometimes.  Eating the way your body is truly intended to eat is a burden and it’s not easy all of the time.  Even though the benefits of it out weigh the cons and you can rationalize your motivation, it is not that simple for most people that I know, actually no one has ever said it was easy, because it just isn’t!

All of the social situations and well intentioned meals made that you just cannot eat seems to pile up.  You go to a “healthy” place to eat, they misunderstand you, you are starving, then they bring a meal you know if you eat, it’s just going to make you sick.  So you drink water and have an internal hissy fit.  But it gets better.  You plan ahead, meet different people more in line with your eating patterns, and learn what places you can and cannot go to eat.  It gets easier.  You will finally let go of all of that extra stuff around eating, then you get to eat for your goals, your beauty and you eat foods that are your medicine.

For years, I loved eating processed sugary foods and I could with no visible consequences.  I took birth control so my skin was crystal clear and my body was in reasonable shape for my standards during my dietary dark ages.  Processed and refined foods are addictive and rightly so.  They are chalked full of chemicals, preservatives and ingredients and make your brain jump around with happiness.  So you eat them, and then your stomach says “I’m not full”, so you eat some more, and your stomach says “I’m not quite full yet”, and you eat some more until you have eaten four times as much as you would normally eat with a nutrient rich plant based meal.  So many extra calories, chemicals, unhealthy fats, sugar, and processed ingredients.  You want a body that makes sense, then eat foods that make sense.  If you can’t read it or pronounce it, what do you expect you digestion to do with it?  So we just eat it anyway and hope for the best? 

Anyway, for those of you feeling all alone with your ‘health nut’ choices, know that you aren’t.  Many of us have successfully let go of the cravings, addictions and emotions that hold us in eating patterns and choices that no longer serve us.  You don’t just get health, you create it.  No one else can create that health for you, but perhaps it would be nice to think that was the case?  At the end of the day it’s just you and your fork and your mouth and you are the one calling the shots.  Let food be your medicine not your psychologist, take a bite in the right direction, whatever that direction may be for you.